The Path to Everyday Peace

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One of the harsh realities of growing up (AND out) is realizing that you have very little control over things in life. You can't control kids getting sick, bosses getting angry, cars breaking down.

In fact, sometimes it can seem like the Universe is making secret plans to destroy you. And the very time when you are most trying to control something by gripping tightly to the outcome, the Universe decides to have a little laugh at your expense and show you that life simply cannot be controlled.

You know what I'm talking about -- it's the totally out-of-the-ordinary traffic jam when you simply have to be at the airport. Or it's the once-in-a-decade snowstorm that keeps your plane grounded in New York when you're meant to be taping a once-in-a-lifetime interview with Oprah under her oaks in Cali. Or the full-blown case of bronchitis the very week when you're supposed to defend your dissertation.

So how are we to deal?

As humans, our natural tendency is to grip and control and try to bend things to our will. But the truth is, it gets us nowhere. In fact, it can be detrimental to us.

The solution?

Let go. Release. Surrender. (And, yes, let God mind the details.)

I know what you're saying: "That's easy for you to say, Dr. Kim. The act of letting go just isn't that easy!"

Yes, letting go can lead to feelings of fear, defeat and resignation. But, it can also be a powerful declaration of trust. Trust that the Universe is conspiring in your favor, bringing you all of the perfect people and situations you need to get you exactly where God intended.

What if you believed that everything in your life was happening for your greater good? That you're on the right path? That even in the face of adversity, the Universe is working in your favor?

In my own life, I've had plenty chances to give in to the belief that nothing good would be mine. I, too, doubted that I'd ever find my true love. And, even when he arrived, I doubted our love would last. Yet, Mark and I are still hanging tough -- after 14 years of marriage and many challenges along the way -- and, what I've learned on the journey has been quite rewarding.

I have learned to trust the God of all. Trust is a very important step, because as long as you hold on to controlling your own life path, nothing God has intended for you can happen. I've learned that when I don't trust God I look back in hindsight and realize that I was standing in my own way.

I have learned to release. Let go. Trust the Universe to provide for me. Let the Spirit do its perfect work.

For me, “Let go and let God” comes down to this: We need to let go of our own will. We must claim as our own the incredibly hard prayer that Jesus prayed: “Father, if you are willing, take this cup from me; yet not my will, but Yours be done” (Luke 22:42). 

If we are to have the life God has purposed for us, we must let go and let Him do what He wills. We must submit. Submission -- and only submission -- will lead to peace and joy, even when the way is difficult.

Do you struggle with letting go? What are you holding onto with an iron grip? I'd love to hear from you. Please post below in the Comments box.


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Dr. Kimberly S. Clay, aka Dr. Kim, is Executive Director and founder of Dallas-based charity, Play Like A Girl!®. On a mission to inspire women and girls across the globe to live a happy, healthy and active lifestyle, Dr. Kim has set out to finally triumph in her own struggle with obesity by creating what she calls her "best me yet" in 2014-15. Sisterbration is the space she has dedicated to documenting the journey and her musings.

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